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Personal meditation:

In this approach we will carry on a self-dialogue using the OSCARmethod.

  • Step One (observing):

In Circle One, write out what we are saying to ourselves about our concern. In Circle Two write out the emotions, thoughts, behaviors, expectations, assumptions, and ideals that we are experiencing about our concern. In Circle Three write out whatour situation could be, that is, the realization of our ideals such as,love, integrity, excellence, respect, etc. In Circle Four identify thedominant irrational tendencies (confusion, dependence, rebellion, skepticism i.e. I can't trust anyone including self), rational tendencies(order, control, system, certainty) and supra-rational tendencies (vision, freedom, change, creativity) that we are feeling in relation toour concern.

  • Step Two (sorting out):

In this step we want to sort out our negative emotions, thoughts and behaviors in each circle. Then, we want to identify what changes that we need to make to move in the direction of our ideals. For example, as a manager of some disgruntled employees I want to spotmy own negative emotions, thoughts, behaviors and irrational tendencies that I need to change to positive ones. I also need to get in touch with the ideal that applies to this situation, so that I can do creative thinking to come up with positive and practical ideas that will change the situation.

  • Step Three (connecting):

In this step we want to use our creative imagination to visualize ourselves behaving and thinking in ways that are consistent with the ideals that we identified in step one. For example, what types of thinking and specific behaviors does the ideal of harmony require ofme to communicate effectively with my employees? The practical concept of listening attentively to their concerns seems to be a usefulway to build harmony.

  • Step Four (act):

Now it's time to plan a course of action to change 'what-is' in Circle One to 'What-could-be'. The question to answer is, "How will I effectively use the practical concepts that I discovered in Step Three to behave according to my ideal?" For example, I will use the practical concept of listening to my employees ideas and emotions and of reflecting them accurately to show themthat I understand them. I will set up a convenient time and place to do this.

  • Step Five (re-evaluating):

After carrying out my plan I will review whether my actions broughtthe consequences that I expected, i.e., more openness and less tension; more spontaneity and less defensiveness, etc. If I'm disappointed with the results, I will observe, sort out and connectagain to make improvements.